They Aren't as Bad as They Seem

  So I've decided to do my post a little early this week due to the fact that a horrible cold is keeping me up until midnight, so to pass the time i figured I'd write! Here we go. I'm going to tell you why food allergies are really not that bad. It seems like its going to be a difficult task, right? To answer that, it really won't be hard at all. 

  I've had food allergies since i was 4, so naturally, I've gotten used to having them (I've had them for almost 13 years!) The first reason why allergies are not horrible to have is that people remember you. You have that unique quality of being able to die at any random time just by eating something or being around a food. I've noticed that many people remember me with more ease than others just by the fact that i have my own unique way of dying. Sounds kind of bad, doesn't it? If it does, that's not what I'm trying to get at, I'm just getting at the point that my food allergies make me unique. They make me who i am and have helped to shape my life and make me a more responsible and mature person.

  On to the next one! My food allergies have also made me a much more social person, due to the fact that i have to talk to adults and other people to tell them about my allergies. Having food allergies is also a great conversation starter! "Have you ever had to use your epi-pen?" "What's it like having a reaction?" "How long have you had your allergies?" I have heard all of these questions and more. People are curious about food allergies and that constant threat that surrounds you. I have made many strong friendships because of my allergies and talking to people about them. I used to be a very shy and quiet person but because of the necessity there is to talk to people, i had to overcome my shy personality to keep myself safe. 

  Number three. Personally, my allergies have given me confidence and have made me less afraid of death. This may not be true for everyone but it is especially true for me. Almost everyday, someone does the kind gesture of offering me food (people without allergies probably don't notice that this happens basically every day to them but with food allergies you have to take notice). Usually if the food is not safe I'll casually say "No thanks, that'll kill me" or "Nah, I'll die." I try to make light of the situation because I've taken my allergies so seriously for so long that i want to be able to keep the situation light, while still keeping myself completely safe. One person has even told me that i am the most comfortable person with death that he's ever met. I took that as a compliment because, yes, i may have the possibility of dying from my allergies at any moment, but there is no way that I will ever let that get me down. Over time i have learned to love my allergies and all that they have made me. Never let your food allergies get you down. Be safe, but always stay happy!

  Those are three major reasons why food allergies don't have to suck. Those are definitely not the only three though. I may be ending this post now but expect many more posts like these to come, mixed in with my other stories! I have to end this post now because i really shouldn't be staying up until 12:30 with a horrible cold! 

  I would love to get some comments, so if you have anything to say write it in! I'd love to hear it! I hope everyone is having a great beginning of the school year! Talk to you next week!

My Talking Doctor

  So when i was about 10 i started going to, as my family called it, my talking doctor. My "talking doctor" was a therapist that i needed to start going to due to my fear of someone entering my room in the middle of the night and putting a tree-nut into my mouth and killing me. I would leave school in the middle of the day every Friday to go to my therapist and my therapist and i would sit in a room and just talk. Looking back on it now, i recently realized that i didn't even notice that i was in therapy and i only recognized the fact that i got to get out of school early to sit in a room and play with jax and the etch-a-sketch. I know now that my life was completely changed by that doctor, i am much more outgoing person and was given much more confidence by my therapist. She taught me that i didn't need to be afraid of something that was so unlikely to actually occur. She also gave me the courage to be able to talk to adults about my allergies and to be able to stand up for myself and say no, even to an adult, if i couldn't eat something.

  When i was younger, before i went to my therapist, i believed that all adults knew better than i did. What i didn't understand was that not all adults actually understood how severe my allergies are. Many adults didn't take me as seriously as they should've because i was so young. When going over some friend's houses when i was younger, some parents would just skim over ingredients and say that it was safe and although i felt uncomfortable and unsafe, i would eat everything anyway in order to avoid being rude. What i understand now is that it is perfectly okay to be rude if it results in me keeping my life and being safe.

  What advice i have to give is that it is okay to be rude if it means being safe. Some adults that have had no experience with allergies just do not grasp the real threat of them. Although they try their best to understand and want to keep me alive, they just do not take it as seriously as they should. Many people do not understand that cross-contamination is a very dangerous threat that is just as deadly as having a food containing the allergen, and many also do not understand that foods being processed in the same factory as allergens are deadly too.

  All in all, what i'm basically getting at is, if it means saving your life, be rude and stand up for yourself. No matter what.

For My Mom

  My mom is the most amazing person. She is the best mother i could have ever hoped to have. She is the sole reason that i am alive today, she has been willing to do anything to keep me safe. Ever since the moment when my parents discovered i had life-threatening allergies, my mom has done everything in her power to keep me safe. If i can't eat somewhere, she won't eat either. She has always been willing to sacrifice anything she can to keep me alive and smiling. She has been with me through everything and has been at the hospital holding my hand every time i have had a reaction, severe or not. I go to her when i'm scared and she always helps me to feel better with her great sense of humor and wonderful smile. I remember one time when i came home from a middle school pizza party crying because i couldn't eat the pizza they were serving, i sat on the stairs sobbing and she hugged me and told me everything was okay and somehow got me to smile, even though i was so upset. She made sure to bring pizza home for dinner the next night. My mother is amazing. As well as being a fantastic mother, she is a great cook. Whenever i couldn't eat something when i went out, she would always make the safe version of the food the next day for me so that i could eat it. She can make anything and everything she makes is delicious. She loves to try those 30-minute meals from the Rachel Ray magazine and loves to try new things. 
  I don't know what i would do without my mom, she keeps me happy and makes having food allergies less stressful. She helps me to forget all of my troubles and makes life simple. I am the luckiest person to have such a mother. I could never thank her enough for what she does every single day. I love her with all of my heart.

  My mom is also a wonderful singer and has sung in several movies and video games, she has many CDs too, check out her website and listen to some music!

Friends are Forever

  So my sister has been reading my blog and has told me that it is incredibly morbid and depressing. I would like to change that, i don't want to be too depressing about allergies.

  Having friends sounds like it is just a simple task. Making and keeping friends is not so easy though, especially when you have allergies. You keep them from eating some of the foods they want to eat, because if they're around you while they eat them, you risk having a reaction. You also sometimes keep them from planning certain things because you can't eat at a certain restaurant or you can't be in a certain area where food is. Well here comes the happy part, there are some really amazing people out there. Some of my friends are the most accepting, inviting, and special people and i am so lucky to have them in my life. They don't treat me like i'm the reason that we all can't do certain things, they know that i can't control my allergies. They are so kind and are always willing to change their plans in order to keep me safe. They are the best friends i could ever ask for.

  My best friend has been with me since we were 4. We have been the best of friends since we met in preschool fighting over a toy. She is the best friend i have ever had and could ever hope to have. She is always there for me and is so laid-back about my allergies. She's careful, but doesn't treat me like a charity case that could die at any moment.

  I love my friends and I wouldn't survive without them, they've helped me through all of my difficult times and keep me sane. Even though some people can be jerks and call you "allergy girl," you have to be patient to meet those special people who will be with you through anything and everything.

  I have been lucky enough to meet and be friends with some of these people in the world and i don't know what i would do without them. I love them with all of my heart and i could never thank them enough for what they do. They are all amazing.

  I would love to hear stories from others about their friends and lives with food allergies, so please comment and share your stories!

Restaurants

So we all know that having food allergies is no fun, but when it comes to restaurants, it can get a lot worse. If you're ever just going out with your friends, you have to call ahead to the restaurant to make sure that you can actually eat something there without dying. If it ends up that that restaurant is not good with dealing with allergies then you have to pick a completely different restaurant to eat at, usually screwing up your plans. If it turns out that the restaurant is safe and you can eat there, then once you get there you have to tell your server, who usually brings over the manager so they don't accidentally kill you, and then you tell the manager and they assure your safety. 

Sometimes the managers are more re-assuring than others. At one restaurant, The Border Cafe, i told my server about my allergies and she then brought over the manager. The manager came up to the table and the conversations went as follows:

"So i heard that someone here has a food allergy?"
"That's me" I said, raising my hand,
"OH! YOU!" He yelled, pointing at me, "You'll be fine," and he walked away.

After that experience i do not plan on going back to that restaurant, even though the food was good and it didn't kill me. Other managers are more assuring and promise to have your food made separately from everything else. Some fairly-priced restaurants that are good about this are The Ninety-Nine and Bertuccis. Although the more expensive restaurants are usually very good about it, they're over-priced.. For instance, Abe and Louie's in Boston is great with allergies, but they are way out of my price range for being a teenager!

When going out to eat, it can be hard to speak up for yourself and tell the server about your allergies. It can sometimes be embarrassing when you can't eat the food you want and you sometimes keep your friends from eating what they want because being around that food will kill you. But not talking to the server is dangerous and i highly recommend that every single person with food allergies talks to their server every time they go out to eat. It can be embarrassing, but death is way worse than a little bit of embarrassment.